Introduction: Solutions concerning conflict resolution are found throughout Scripture. The prevailing solution seems to be found in a person’s character and temperament—which for the believer ultimately comes from their willingness to submit to God’s truth and the Holy Spirit.

The Sources of Conflict

• The Emotions of Conflict

          --Anger  (Colossians 3:8)  (James 1:19)

          --Guilt  & Shame  (Colossians 3:9a)

• The Enhancers of Conflict (def. to grow larger in agitation) (Colossians 3:9b-10)

           --Past Dysfunction                        

           --Poor Communication

           --Parenting Disagreements          

           --Life Transitions

           --Financial Concerns

The Separation of Conflict  (Colossians 3:11)

• Different Backgrounds

• Different Views

• Different Personalities

• Different Sexes  (Ephesians 5:33)

The Suspense of Conflict

• The Response: Smolders vs. Screamers

• The Reality: Expectations vs. Reality

The Synthesis of Conflict (def. to put things together to make a whole)

• The Path to Wholeness (Colossians 3:12)  (Ephesians 4:26-27)  (Matthew 5:23b-24—The Message)  (Romans 12:18)

          --Clarify the actual conflict                      

          --Stick to the issue

          --Avoid sarcasm                                       

          --Avoid “you” statements

          --Avoid exaggerations                              

          --Avoid name-calling

          --Avoid power statements & actions       

          --Avoid silent treatment

          --Repeat back statements for clarity       

          --Agree on outcome and plan

          --Strive to reflect honor in your words & actions

• The Picture of Wholeness—Conflict Can:

           --Bring better understanding  (Colossians 3:13)

           --Build better intimacy  (Colossians 3:14)

Game Changer: Living and experiencing God’s Truth is the key to overcoming dysfunction in relational conflict.  (Colossians 3:18-21)